This week has had me in the midst of soul searching. Coming back from a holiday in a marvellous place with like minded people has had me asking myself a lot of questions. Instead of flailing about like a rabbit in headlights I have decided to let things be and continue to follow the rules I set myself to remember and make the most of every day. In reality, the only thing we have control over is our feelings and behaviours and I believe following those is what leads us down the right paths.
1. Remember every day is a gift
My favourite quote says it all “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery but today is a gift… That is why it is called the present”. Made present in conscious awareness for anybody watching Kung Fu Panda (if you haven’t seen it, it’s a must details here) it is something I try to tell myself every day. Life might seem menial and repetitive sometimes but the beauty I find in it is you never know what is going to happen day to day. You never know who you are going to meet, what they’re going to say and where that is going to take you, good or bad. You could be completely unaware you are about to have the best day of your life.
2. Live without regrets
We all make mistakes, we all do things with hindsight we perhaps wouldn’t have. That is why hindsight is a marvellous thing. We don’t have a crystal ball and neither would I want to have one. As long as you felt the decision was right at the time, what is there to regret? Yes we’ve all made bad decisions but you can’t change the past. Sitting and regretting things will lead to bitterness and unhappiness. Instead try to take the positives where you can, learn from the experience, put it behind you and move forwards. Another one of my favourite quotes is from the Lion King “Yes the past can hurt but the way I see it you can either run from it or learn from it”. Wise words from a wise old monkey (I don’t spend all my time watching cartoon children’s films but FYI they can be a great source of amazing quotes!).
3. Love thy neighbour (not literally)
I’m not suggesting you go out and start hugging your next door neighbour. 1) they might find it grossly inappropriate and 2) you might make your other neighbours jealous. Nor is that connected to anything religious. However, having a bit of respect and politeness for others around you can never be a bad thing. It fills me with joy when I see someone in the street who looks a bit down and I simply say hi and smile and they say hi and beam back. I literally mean beam, that person who looked like the Grinch who stole Christmas (sorry, I said it and it’s only September!) a second ago now looks like Santa with his mince pies. It’s great! Speak to people, engage in positive conversation and who knows what you’ll find out. Everyone has a story, respect that and be positive around people and the positivity will flow back.
4. Think positively
I am a real believer in thinking positively bringing you good things. I can’t explain it but I truly believe when you’re giving off a positive vibe, positive things happen. If you give off a negative vibe, things seem to go from bad to worse. Think not about how your environment is affecting how you think but instead that how you think is affecting your environment. Stop blaming your negative thoughts on the bad things that seem to happen but instead think if I had thought more positively about that event then would it have gone better? Could there have been a different outcome? For 95% of situations the honest answer is yes.
5. Take time for you
One I often forget to do. Everybody reading this is probably exactly the same. You or me time should be high on the agenda. Selfishness is not something we are taught is a good thing, in fact we’re told from a very young age it’s bad. So we can be programmed to feel bad when we take some time for us. The downside to that is we don’t take time for us, we constantly run about doing everything for everyone else and we lose ourselves. That’s not a good place to be in. You have to take time to do the things you enjoy or you’ll end up being a bit resentful, perhaps even subconsciously, of others. Worse still you may even see your health suffer. On a daily basis you should be grabbing half an hour at least to make peace with yourself and enjoy being with your inner you. If you don’t, you could end up making everyone else around you suffer without meaning to.
6. Follow your passions
This is something again I don’t believe we do enough. In this ‘want everything yesterday’ society full of brands, material things and celebrity icons a big focus for many people is getting money. Lots of it. People believe it will make them happy and perhaps it will. However, I’m very cynical of this. I believe happiness comes from inside and that comes from many things but a big one is following your passions. They may not fit with what everyone else thinks you should do but it isn’t about them, it’s about you. If you’re passionate about something you’re more likely to enjoy doing it. You’re also more likely to succeed.
Success, for me, isn’t always making something work. For me, it’s about having the guts to give something a damn good go and if it doesn’t work then saying you gave it your all. It’s not quantified by money, it’s something felt inside. It’s living life by your dreams and doing your best to make them a reality. It’s learning when things go wrong, being positive and being passionate about what you do.
So if you’re looking to make some more positive steps in your life and want that extra push with motivation for exercise or diet then please contact me. Or watch a multitude of cartoon films made for children, it seems to work for me! Whatever helps you on your journey I wish you every luck and positivity…. Sometimes the biggest barrier to your success is yourself.
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